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Thanks Gerry!

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"Yes lives in the land of No " as coaches S. Chandler and R. Litvin wrote. I appreciate learning of this experiment and the encouragement to go get some Nos'!

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Jun 30, 2023Liked by Robert Glazer

Love it! Thanks for sharing. 🙏

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Great lesson - this is a great theory about getting to the Yes. I always know you got to try first, but this theory explains why.

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Thank you! I am also sending this to my teenage step-daughter!

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Jun 30, 2023Liked by Robert Glazer

Robert, while I agree with what Wayne's point about taking risks, there is the flip side of the coin where we might be so over-committed that the complete sentence of "NO" is warranted. Our challenge is to know when each response is warranted.

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Jun 30, 2023Liked by Robert Glazer

A great reminder! It's very easy to see others' successes and just assume it was easy for them—that they must have experienced very little rejection or frustration or discomfort along the way. Looking past that to see all the "no's" they, too, endured (and persevered through) is an important practice.

This piece also reminded me of a wonderful children's book I read to my kids. Every time we pick it up, it's just as much a lesson for me as it is for them.

A Thousand No's: A growth mindset story of grit, resilience, and creativity https://a.co/d/2nWCNM4

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I learned this lesson from my Dad. He always used to said - you already have a no as an answer if you don’t ask -

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