This is a great article, and something I struggle with as a therapist. As a helper, you're geared to help others, but we have to balance the ethics of why we say no along with good insight into our our abilities, skills, and training. Sometimes we just have too much to do, and not enough scheduled hours to really accomplish all of it. Thank you for this -- I'm going to share with my subscribers in July.
Yes, saying "No" can be almost impossible to verbalise! I learnt the hard way when I decided to become a Pawnbroker and open a loan shop. Saying "Yes" cost me money! I think it took me about a month to learn how to say "No" when it was necessary. Trying to be Mr Nice Guy saying "Yes" can be very harmful to both the giver and receiver, it's a hard learning process!
Funnily enough I'm just editing a post on saying 'no' myself to share on my page this week so your piece caught my eye! I love that list of bullet points you offer. I think of being able to say 'no' as essential self-care, and that self-care is the midpoint on a continuum between selfish and self-less, a healthy balance where everyone benefits from us not becoming burnt out and bitter.
This is a great article, and something I struggle with as a therapist. As a helper, you're geared to help others, but we have to balance the ethics of why we say no along with good insight into our our abilities, skills, and training. Sometimes we just have too much to do, and not enough scheduled hours to really accomplish all of it. Thank you for this -- I'm going to share with my subscribers in July.
I love that template for how to say "no" in the perfect way. A great point brought up indeed! Thanks for sharing.
Yes, saying "No" can be almost impossible to verbalise! I learnt the hard way when I decided to become a Pawnbroker and open a loan shop. Saying "Yes" cost me money! I think it took me about a month to learn how to say "No" when it was necessary. Trying to be Mr Nice Guy saying "Yes" can be very harmful to both the giver and receiver, it's a hard learning process!
Funnily enough I'm just editing a post on saying 'no' myself to share on my page this week so your piece caught my eye! I love that list of bullet points you offer. I think of being able to say 'no' as essential self-care, and that self-care is the midpoint on a continuum between selfish and self-less, a healthy balance where everyone benefits from us not becoming burnt out and bitter.
"effective and respectful"- yes and so they could be deliverable as well ❤️🩹
I learned tjo sa no too late.
I love this! Thanks for sharing it. What thoughts do you (or your readers) have for a version of this when the person asking is your boss?