As a family, we apply this unwritten rule when we go out on vacation. If we are staying in someone else's house (rentals or not), we try to leave that place cleaner than we received it.
It is a small gesture for the cleaning crew.
BTW, I just had a dinner episode a few weeks ago. I was the "salad eater", but had to split the bill. Next time, I will say something, even if it is awkward. I do not want to feel abused again.
The "am I the salad or the steak" test works the same way at work. The unspoken rule: if your part is running late and it is about to land on someone else, you say so before they find out, not after. No one puts that rule in writing, and you rarely get called out for staying quiet, but the trust drains away either way. Your line about the consequences arriving silently is exactly why the people we most want to work with again are the ones who share the bad news early.
Nothing ruins a dinner night out more than an argument over the bill. These days, restaurants are able to create individual bills easily with their systems - that wasn't always the case. Nonetheless, I make a point of setting the expectations upfront before getting to the restaurant.
Setting expectations ahead of time is a good practice generally. If there is a common understanding there is one less hurdle to overcome when working on a project.
As a family, we apply this unwritten rule when we go out on vacation. If we are staying in someone else's house (rentals or not), we try to leave that place cleaner than we received it.
It is a small gesture for the cleaning crew.
BTW, I just had a dinner episode a few weeks ago. I was the "salad eater", but had to split the bill. Next time, I will say something, even if it is awkward. I do not want to feel abused again.
The "am I the salad or the steak" test works the same way at work. The unspoken rule: if your part is running late and it is about to land on someone else, you say so before they find out, not after. No one puts that rule in writing, and you rarely get called out for staying quiet, but the trust drains away either way. Your line about the consequences arriving silently is exactly why the people we most want to work with again are the ones who share the bad news early.
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Nothing ruins a dinner night out more than an argument over the bill. These days, restaurants are able to create individual bills easily with their systems - that wasn't always the case. Nonetheless, I make a point of setting the expectations upfront before getting to the restaurant.
Setting expectations ahead of time is a good practice generally. If there is a common understanding there is one less hurdle to overcome when working on a project.
A very vital lesson for living a right life .