I have a “yes, and”. Yes, perceived scars can hold us back, and the same is true for people raised in a climate of “you’re the best…the most…” and so on. I think that is equally damaging.
100%. I once heard a child development specialist say that never tell your kids they are smart or are not smart, but comment on what they did was smart or not smart.
This article is one for the ages! The decades-old study is rather mind-blowing and explains a ton regarding human nature. Then, the following is something that our current society needs to hear more than practically any other message. It's where you wrote:
"None of this is to say that real obstacles don’t exist. They do; acknowledging them honestly matters. But there’s a meaningful difference between helping someone understand genuine challenges and conditioning them to expect bias or rejection at every turn."
WOW! Just WOW! Greatly appreciate you sharing such wisdom with us!
This brings to mind for me the definition of humility by C.S. Lewis, “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” Many of us live in a crisis of self-focus. It’s a normal development stage for teenagers, but too many of us stay trapped in a world of comparison long after those years. While it’s clear that this is not a new phenomenon, we seem to have doubled down with the aid of social media literally at our fingertips. Moral injury is easy to imagine and hard to set down. But it is perhaps our greatest hope.
I have a “yes, and”. Yes, perceived scars can hold us back, and the same is true for people raised in a climate of “you’re the best…the most…” and so on. I think that is equally damaging.
100%. I once heard a child development specialist say that never tell your kids they are smart or are not smart, but comment on what they did was smart or not smart.
This article is one for the ages! The decades-old study is rather mind-blowing and explains a ton regarding human nature. Then, the following is something that our current society needs to hear more than practically any other message. It's where you wrote:
"None of this is to say that real obstacles don’t exist. They do; acknowledging them honestly matters. But there’s a meaningful difference between helping someone understand genuine challenges and conditioning them to expect bias or rejection at every turn."
WOW! Just WOW! Greatly appreciate you sharing such wisdom with us!
This brings to mind for me the definition of humility by C.S. Lewis, “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” Many of us live in a crisis of self-focus. It’s a normal development stage for teenagers, but too many of us stay trapped in a world of comparison long after those years. While it’s clear that this is not a new phenomenon, we seem to have doubled down with the aid of social media literally at our fingertips. Moral injury is easy to imagine and hard to set down. But it is perhaps our greatest hope.
Great article! And so true I had a note of my own to add.